Burning Bridges

Something I have neglected to discuss here in detail is my relationship with Dh's sister and her husband. Talking about it is probably akin to shooting myself in the foot but hell, I'm not the bad guy so I think I've earned the right to rant and rave. DH's sister GM and I have been fairly friendly. When they lived far away we would have 3 hour conversations on the phone. She would confide in me that she wanted to leave her husband, what a huge jerk he is etc etc. Some of these stories included verbal abuse of her and her son. I always felt she was leaving something out. When GMs husband was released from the army this summer (he was red crossed out before they could pull any stop losses in his division), they made their way across the country. They came to stay with my family. This was #1 repayment for her and their son staying with us when Tessa was on the way (we had no one to watch Mira and help me around the house) #2 is Troy's sister - of course she's welcome. It seemed that she and her husband had mended fences, but I was rather nervous about his living with us (im not always so easy to get along with). They stayed with us for several months that encompassed selling the old house, purchasing this one and moving. GMs husband was useful when we moved - that was it. He NEVER did ANYTHING.. When I say ANYTHING I mean: he started to make himself a PB&J sandwich and GM ended up doing it. He would say he was going to mow the lawn - I ended up doing it with Tessa in a baby carrier on my back. They homeschool their son, GM would go work a 10 hour shift then come home and homeschool my nephew - her husband would spend the whole day doing PE with him... Which mostly consisted of nephew watching him lift weights..It was disgusting. DH was rather disgruntled, I was seriously depressed and things just didn't seem to be getting better. One night GM and her hubby got wasted. They were in their room (oh did I mention we only had 2 bedrooms split between 2 family.. Um yeah). DH and I are talking about the situation in low tones. I'm warning him that he needs to speak with them about moving when we hear a terrible scream and then a thud. We go running and find DH sister face planted on the floor. Her lovely jack ass of a hubby was sitting in a chair going "Play it up GM, play it up like you always do" He then turns to us and starts talking about how she attacked him and was scratching him. We picked GM up off the floor and removed her from the room. Jackass follows us, defending himself while GMs jaw begins to swell up. DH made a beeline for the garage where I could hear stuff breaking and being thrown around. Jackass gets in my face when I ask him to go back to his room. He's insulting me, my kids, my house, my husband (did I mention they were not paying us anything...Not even helping with any utilities). He started moving towards GM so I got up in his face and started yelling at him about what kind of 'man' he is, hitting his wife and doing so in front of their kid no less! The really sickening part is that Jackass was military police in the army. He would often brag about how he could restrain anyone without hurting them. So, even if GM was bothering him he could have passively restrained her - no hitting involved. He claimed he pushed her away and that she fell and rolled off the mattress.. Um yeah that's why the side of her jaw was swollen - NOPE try again you SOB. DH came in and separated us... I was scared I've NEVER seen Troy so angry. He treated the situation with a calm head though. He told Jackass to leave right then and there. Jackass did his best to burn some more bridges on the way out the door. GM was going to stay with us until Jackass had a final word with her. Suddenly she was packing herself and Nephew up too. Into the night they were gone and within 2 weeks all of their stuff had been collected. It was horrible. The whole experience made me feel violated. Growing up in a home of emotional abuse I swore that nothing like that would ever happen in my house - an outsider violated my house and perpetuated an awful crime. I brought this up today because I saw Jackass at the gym the other day.. They have 3 gyms closer to their house but they joined our YMCA?? Oh hell no! I was pleased when he scurried off after spotting me. He was so brazen drunk but I was dead sober when I got in his face and said I would call the cops. He threatened me bodily harm - I know I can do a lot more damage - you are a big dumb slow ox. I have a razor sharp tongue, keen mind and hella anger. Stay away from me and if I find out that you EVER touch GM in such a way again I will rip your balls off and stuff them in your ears. GM may not like me anymore but I would do that to protect my precious nephew who is but a pawn in this sadistic cycle of abuse you BOTH are perpetuating. GM is a wonderful mother, she just needs to realize that sometimes in some situations you 'fail'. Chalk it up, learn the lesson and start over. And this little saga is one of the the more recent happenings that sent me to the doctor for Paxil